Sometimes life actually makes sense:
- Your kind gesture was received with gratitude.
- Your boss rewarded your hard work.
- Your doing the right thing won the respect of others.
- Your family appreciated the sacrifices you made.
If this is your experience it is motivating. You see the benefit of being a nice guy and doing the right thing. And then there are those other times… when no matter how hard you try to do the right thing, it feels like, “nice guys always finish last.”
- You had put the needs of others ahead of your own and no one cared.
- You received distrust in return for diligence.
- You received rudeness in return for kindness.
- You picked up the slack and people took advantage of you.
- You kept giving, but it was never enough.
When your world looks like this you have a decision to make. You either continue to be the best that you can be, or you grow weary and compromise by not persisting in doing what is good.
While it may be exhausting to always be the “go-to” guy, the alternative is not desirable either.
You may have already come to terms with the idea that it doesn’t really matter what other people say or do, but the truth lost to you in the shuffle is: what matters most is how God sees you. God’s Gaze is the most important. The truth is that God sees all of the effort you are putting forth to do what is right and good and He loves it!
Now—we know what you may be thinking—I certainly don’t feel rewarded by God or by anyone for that matter. But you will reap what you sow. Here’s another way to say it: you will get back what you give. It may not come from the person you want it to come from; it may not come when you’d like it to come—but you will reap what you sow. This is good news if you are sowing virtue and bad news if you are sowing evil.
So—do nice guys always finish last? Not in God’s economy they don’t. If you’d like to know more about sowing and reaping, then read on.
Don’t lose heart.
Mark and Tammy